Old-Timey Chivalry for 2020
Your partner or wife may be the boss at work, but does she also want to play executive decision-maker at home? Probably not, because it can be lonely and downright difficult at the top. How do you make her feel like you have her back without acting like her man servant? We put together a handy mini-guide below with a few quick outside the box ideas for modern couples and for the ladies who appreciate a little old-timey chivalry.
1. Plan a hike. She may not be into hiking, and she may think she's more of a Sunday brunch type of gal, but this is an extremely thoughtful way to consider spending quality time. Pack a picnic lunch, lose the GPS, and bring a portable telescope to gaze at the stars when the sun goes down.
2. Reverse your roles. Does she buy the toilet paper, toothpaste, soap, and laundry detergent? Do you buy the plane tickets? If you've settled into your routines and the partnership is starting to feel like a second job, it's time to revise your list of responsibilities. You can bring home the vegetarian bacon and the toothpaste for a surprising role-reversal, which could possibly outshine any new jewelry or bouquet of roses for weeks.
3. Order for her. This is certainly old-timey and somewhat risky in the age of #metoo but can be a home run in the right context. Men and women alike make approximately 35,000 decisions per day, which is roughly 2,000 decisions per hour or one decision every two seconds. These stats are astounding, not to mention exhausting. Isn't it a little easier when someone makes a few decisions for you? On the rare date-night (which may now be a monthly occasion rather than weekly) you know exactly what will make her mouth water. When the waiter arrives, you take the lead and order for two.
4. Give her roses. You need respect. She needs love. There is no classier way to say I love you.
5. Say it in writing. You tell her every day how proud you are of her and how much she means to you, however there are times when it can mean more to get your thoughts down on paper, put all the feels in a card, and slip it into her suitcase before she leaves for that next leadership summit. At the moment she tearfully discovers you went out of your way to make her feel special, she should be utterly amazed and delighted beyond words.
Valentine's Day only comes once a year, but you can do one little thing today that would be a big deal to your partner. Life can get serious, too serious at times. Why not inject a bit of fun and some old-timey chivalry to make us feel human again?